I work with more women than men...and everyone openly acknowledges the differences. Both biological and cultural.
You can see it most acutely, I find, in how the genders approach conflict. Men tend towards immediate confrontation, direct displays of force, and should it come to it, finality of action (whether it's a fistfight, a knife-in-the-back, a stolen lover, or a pink slip). If two men are in conflict, everyone knows it, and knows to avoid the crossfire.
Most women, in contrast, avoid direct confrontation and open conflict. Instead, they are prone to starting vendettas, holding grudges forever, and slowly working against their enemies in the background. I know women who, instead of maneuvering to fire the target of their hatred, intentionally schedule their enemies for the most-stressful positions available for *years*. Or will quietly slander their name to *everyone* for years, sabotaging said rival's ability to find work or lovers anywhere in the city. Slowly working to sever all of their victim's relationships.
I have many examples in the ER. When I have a conflict with a male nurse...we basically get into eachother's faces and threaten to report the issue to ever-higher levels of authority until one backs down. Female nurses quickly leave and give in to my demands, at most trying to call my supervisor instead (who has my back).
When one of my less-manly female co-workers works that same ER position? Look out! The male nurses bully them into submission, to the point that they have to call our supervisor for backup. The female nurses bring out the knives...writing people up for false accusations, slandering the integrity of my co-worker to supervisors, convincing all the nurses on the floor to pile-on said co-worker, and do everything in their power to make the co-workers job much more difficult.
See, I appreciate women who don't go that route and are simply direct. Nice Kitty is like that. I am like that. I'm sure other female posters are like that, too. My preference is being direct...like getting in a cold swimming pool. I always jumped right in rather than slowly immersing myself, because the latter method seemed to draw out the pain of the temperature shock.
If it's something unpleasant that I need to go through, I want it over as quickly as possible and move on.
Culturally, women who prefer this way of life are often called bitches. I prefer to call it just being pragmatic.
When much younger, I DID go through a "mean girl" stage in school. And, one summer break, I realized I just couldn't stomach the drama of it any longer and stopped participating. I am most grateful for that insight at that age. I'm think my houseful of men (all brothers, a dad, and then my mother and me) also helped me realize that no one was interested in that drama when I would tell them about what so and so dared to wear that day, what her make-up looked like....they were all bored. So, I just woke up and realized it's not all that important.
Plus, as an aside, once my mother bought me a Barbie doll. I was never interested in it. I was more interested in my bothers' Tonka trucks and, of course, my stuffed animals.
So, I had a lot of male influence in my life growing up. I also was tight with my mother, so I also had that influence.
Long story short, to the question of the OP, yes and yes....but not always.
I am an American. That's the way most of us put it, just matter of factly. They are plain words, those four. You could write them on your thumbnail, or you could sweep them clear across a bright autumn sky. But remember too, that they are more than words. They are a way of life. So whenever you speak them, speak them firmly; speak them proudly; speak them gratefully. I am an American. ... a tradition
plasmaball: Yes a woman's Orgasm is like trying to spot the wild snow leopard. You must wait weeks upon maybe months and if you are lucky you might spot a small puddle from this cunning creature called the orgasm. its more like sometimes you have to fake it because
Feb 7, 2013 12:05:17 GMT -5
plasmaball: we find you boring.
Feb 7, 2013 12:05:22 GMT -5
LadyGunSlinger: Your psychobabble is just that and shows you don't know shit about a woman's body.
Feb 7, 2013 12:27:10 GMT -5
plasmaball: sigh sarcasm is lost on the stupid. dear the womans body is not a rubix cube.
Feb 7, 2013 12:37:53 GMT -5
LadyGunSlinger: As if I am suppose to be able to discern your attitude over the interwebz??
Feb 7, 2013 12:44:55 GMT -5